Loss

I've been hearing a lot of these comments lately- random yet somehow related- and I thought I'd share.

Professional boxers tell you that a punch hurts less if you saw it coming; A surprise undercut could lose you a game. Like death, one will forever mourn the actual happening but if what led to it was a persevering battle with cancer it would've given the mourners some time to habituate the possibility of a loss, versus a random car accident for example. Similarly, and on a less morbid note, is the situation with break ups. If you saw it coming, it would hurt less.

I think, with all due respect to those who have these beliefs and/or have expressed them to me, that these statements are somewhat full of shit.

It hurts all the same.